Your life transition lawyer, protecting what matters most.

Work With TamaraEsq

The one constant in life is change.

Whether you're restructuring your family through divorce, designing your legacy with an estate plan, or workng through a challenging family conflict, my role is to provide strategic guidance to protect your family and minimize conflict, no matter what comes.

Ways To Work With Me

I Offer

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LIFE & LEGACY PLANNING

Protect your family for this generation and the next:

Trust and Will creation customized for your unique family circumstances (not just cookie-cutter templates)
Name legal guardians to protect your children in unforeseen circumstances
Ensure your values and decisions are memorialized in legally binding healthcare directives and powers of attorney
Full service trust funding and regular check-ins to ensure your legal documents adapt as your family's circumstances change

Our process is designed to support you every step of the way. Give your family the very best gift: peace of mind.

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MEDIATION FOR DIVORCE & FAMILY DISPUTES

Full service on-line or in person mediation (Santa Barbara County):

Mediate divorce, family office or business disputes, or estate planning and administration conflicts quickly and efficiently
Reach resolution and create lasting agreements that prioritize civility, discretion, and mutual cooperation
Ensure confidentiality to keep personal affairs private
Full service divorce support from petition to judgment

Confidentially resolve the dispute so you can move on while preserving your most important family relationships.

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1:1 DIVORCE & FAMILY TRANSITION
CONSULTING

Divorce and other family feuds are disruptive and stressful. We offer more than just divorce or family conflict coaching. We manage the process and guide you every step of the way:

Build your team of trusted professionals
Navigate the legal process
Concierge real time support when tempers flare or issues arise
Strategic negotiation and proposal generation to reach resolution

Streamline the process, protect your interests, and communicate effectively to deescalate conflict and avoid collateral damage.

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I’m TamaraEsq.

A licensed attorney and real estate agent, certified mediator and conflict coach, founder of Truce Resolutions, creator of the Divorce Wave app, and the collector of ancient & modern wisdom.

My mission is to fully support my clients through life's most difficult challenges and to help them embrace these transitions as an opportunity to transform and thrive in their next chapter.

More About Me

"Nothing short of amazing!"

Working with Tamara has been nothing short of amazing. In all honesty, I don’t think I could have gotten through this without her. The whole idea of a "divorce coach" was completely foreign to me. Not only has Tamara made the legal process seem less daunting and uncertain, but she’s helped me to realize that I am not responsible for my spouse’s happiness, and this realization has freed me to claim this next chapter of my life with hope and without guilt.

Tom N.
Physician

"I wish I had discovered these tools sooner."

After Tamara taught me how to work with the Enneagram and other communication tools, I began to feel compassion not only towards my ex-spouse, but for myself as I have also struggled with communication over the years. Her guidance has not only improved collaboration with my co-parent, but it has improved my relationship with my current partner as well.
I wish I had discovered these tools sooner.

Ryan A.
Entrepreneur

"The heaviness is not so heavy."

Quick note to say thank you and how I truly appreciate your advice, wisdom, and support! The heaviness is not so heavy... I am thankful this morning.

Satisfied Client

"I'm communicating more clearly with my Ex."

I've started setting firmer boundaries, communicating more clearly with my ex, and making choices based on what's best for my future instead of staying stuck in the past. Tamara pushed me to look at things from a different angle, but always in a way that felt respectful and constructive. The balance made a huge difference.

Shawn R.
First Responder

"Tamara pushed me to grow without ever being judged."

Tamara struck the perfect balance, being compassionate and understanding while still challenging me to think deeper and take action when I needed to. She pushed me to grow without ever being judged..

Gladys R.
Medical professional

FREE ESTATE PLANNING RESOURCE

Where should we send your free copy?

Along with your book, we'll send you our occasional newsletter, packed with important information to keep your family's wealth and wishes protected and your legacy a gift, not a burden, to your children.

4 FREE DIVORCE RESOURCES

1. Pause Before You Respond (audio)
2. Pre-Divorce Checklist
3. What to Say When
4. Questions to Ask Divorce Professionals

Get instant access to help prepare you to move out, communicate effectively with your spouse, and ask important questions of divorce professionals.